Photo: Anna Fredriksson

The days with Mom

The feeling of time passing. Slowly. Anna Fredriksson counts the days and marks them in the calendar. She is in voluntary quarantine, together with her 95-year-old mother. It all starts on March 13 and ends on October 1, when her mother moves into a dementia care home. This is the Swedish diary of 193 days during the coronavirus pandemic.

Published on 1 January 2021
Photo: Anna Fredriksson
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Day 1

13 March, 2020

My decision was immediate.

The virus is now spreading throughout Swedish society. It has been established without any doubt. I have practically lived with you since Christmas already, while waiting for you to get a place at a dementia care home. But after a long independent life, you would rather continue your life here, at home, and you've just turned down the third offer from the municipality. That was probably a good place, perfectly okay. I had a look at it. You didn't even want to enter, sat outside. I started crying in the head nurse's room. Afterwards, I regret exposing myself like that, thinking that it's not a good start. Not at all. So, I accept your "No", legitimize it. At the same time, I know that the situation is no longer manageable, it's getting impossible. We must find a solution.

Then, suddenly, the virus changes everything. I shut down my own house in Stockholm, ask the neighbour to water the plants and take care of the mail and I move 330 kilometers south. I move. Home to you. To the room where I grew up, as a little girl. Sure, it looks completely different now, but still, it's my nursery room. We cancel the home care service for a while. They still bring lunch every day, but put it on the porch outside.

"I understand that there are strong emotions involved here, but I don't think you're aware of the consequences of your actions," says my partner when we wave goodbye.

No, I don't. But it's an easy decision. I just know that I don't want you to get sick and suffocate, we've learned by now that the virus effects the lungs. It's scary.

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